I think it’s weird when people try and talk me out of adoption.
Most of them must be sadists–I mean, you’d have to be. Or child-haters. Like, I don’t understand how sixteen-year-old high-school kid is going to be so much more of a competent parent than an adult who can’t have a baby for some reason and really really wants one. And I mean…just because you have a happy functional marriage and a well-paying job and all of these other things that are necessary for raising children doesn’t mean that everyone is.
Shockingly, I know what I’m doing. Don’t try to divert me. I have a brain, I know how to use it.
I love this kid more than I love my own life. I’m not abandoning him or her in the cold. I’m giving him or her a chance. A chance that I would never be able to give them.
And I think that’s what’s most important.
lisa4011 said,
January 16, 2008 @ 12:39 am
For 16 years old, you are being remarkably mature in your attitude. I do hope you are getting some sort of counseling, after all, relinquishing a child by choice is still losing a child. All the best to you, and peace of mind, for the future.
maybug said,
January 16, 2008 @ 9:02 am
I’m really not that mature. Sensible? Sure. Mature? Maybe not. Thanks, though. That’s very sweet of you.
No counseling yet. I think that’s something that I need to look into. I mean, it’s not like I’m going at this by myself, but the only person I really talk to is the school counselor.
That sense of loss is something I’ve been thinking of a lot lately. It’s the thing I’m most afraid of, I think.
Thanks. Again.
kim.kim said,
January 24, 2008 @ 4:04 am
No counselling? Girl you need to talk to as many people as possible. PLEASE!
I am not trying to talk you out of adoption, just wanting you to go into this FULLY INFORMED.